Attachment to Ownership: Rising up from the pain created by expectation.

No matter where we are in our life journey, we all have demands on our time. And although we all have 24 hours per day to spend we also have a set of expectations, plans and dreams that influence how we want to spend that time.
As someone who prides myself on my ability to truly motivate people and support them in opening up to all that is possible, I know that these are all great things when used in empowering ways. For example, expectations help us to set a specific standard of what we will and will not accept. A plan will ensure we stay accountable and provide the stepping stones that allow us to remain consistent. And dreams are the very divine gifts of inspiration that pull us forward.

All of these when combined create a general, but oftentimes very clear vision of how we think things should happen for us. Now this is a good thing, but here’s the problem….

Life will NOT always happen how and when we think that it should.
And when you are a heart centered woman with very powerfully inspired expectations and visions about how and when things should happen, and those things are not met to those exact specifications, pain is created. Pain in the form of frustration that we’ve encountered more resistance than we anticipated. Anxiousness that things are taking too long to manifest. Doubt that we’re on the right path or that we’re really capable. Even sadness that we must not be deserving of the very thing we’re here to experience and create.

There is hope!

There is a way to have a clear vision, an inspired action plan and healthy expectations without the type of attachment that can create pain.

First I want to offer you this…..

Attachment is created by the ego. It is a strong feeling of need wrapped in desperation and fear of what will happen if we loose it, or do not get it.
Ownership is created within the soul. It is a powerful feeling of strength, self compassion, non judgment, gratitude, faith and openness. It is a state of being. A WAY of living your life where you take responsibility for your life (your ship) and are open to the journey to your destination (what you are called to create) as it was meant to unfold. (Adjusting your sails to where the divine wind takes you)

The solution…

Shift from a state of attachment to what you want to create, to ownership.

A simple step that you can take right now to begin to do this is to tune inward. Become familiar with your souls voice, and the voice of your ego and create a space within yourself for the two to communicate harmoniously and start an inner dialog. Once a place of harmony is created you can then move from a place of fear to a place of faith.
And when you create through faith, you will not allow yourself to be ruled by the feelings that come up when the winds that guide your ship on your journey shift.

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Through her Freedom Creation Coaching Program, “Freedom Management Inc” Founder and CEO Tara Villeneuve strives to inspire, empower and celebrate, heart centered women everywhere to live purposefully, fearlessly and powerfully while owning their freedom through authentic creative expression! Get FREE monthly articles and advice at www.Freedom-Management.com